My college’s office of sexual assault
prevention recently hosted a talk by Leslie Morgan Steiner. Steiner, a Harvard
graduate, TED talk speaker, and author of Crazy Love, spoke
about her experiences as a survivor of domestic violence and advocate for women
and men in situations of abuse. You can find my notes on her speech here.
As a feminist and as a woman, I feel that
one of the most important goals is to eradicate violence against women. Thank
God, I have never experienced violence of any form firsthand, but this issue
resonates with me nonetheless. I don’t know why ending violence against women
is such a priority for me. I guess it just offends my sense of fairness and
justice. I believe that violence against women should be one of the feminist
movement’s highest priorities, because it is impossible for women to even dream
of full equality if they are being physically, emotionally, mentally, or in any
other way abused.
It was so inspiring to hear how Steiner
was able to leave her negative experiences behind and build a new life for
herself. Even though she went through hell, she was still able to move forward
and not let what happened to her define the rest of her life.
Steiner stressed that part of the healing
process for her was breaking the silence and telling people about how she had
been subjected to domestic violence by her husband. Every survivor of violence
has a different reaction to their experiences, and they are all completely
legitimate; nobody should be stigmatized for speaking out or remaining silent. However,
I do believe that it’s important for those survivors of domestic violence who
feel comfortable discussing what happened to them to do so. Steiner said that
she also believes it’s important to talk about it because “it normalizes it for
me and makes me not embarrassed of it.”
Steiner pointed out that the US has a lot
of great resources for survivors of abuse to get out of situations of violence
and deal with the aftermath, but there is still “only a surface awareness of
domestic violence.” She mentioned how even after what happened to Yeardley
Love, a lacrosse player at the University of Virginia who was killed by her
abusive ex-boyfriend, became common knowledge among undergrads, people
continued to stand by as they witnessed abusive relationships.
This is an excellent point. From a
personal perspective, my only exposure to domestic violence is through my feminist
advocacy work and blogging. If I weren’t so into women’s rights-related topics,
I would be woefully ignorant about violence against women. To me, this is a
call for action. The feminist community, along with other communities that
understand how problematic violence against women is, must educate society at
large about the complexity of this issue. Although domestic violence may not be
as pervasive in the US as it was 40 years ago, so much as one woman suffering
from an abusive partner is one too many.
Overall, Steiner’s speech really
resonated with me and gave me hope that violence against women will, someday,
end. I certainly hope I can help facilitate that change in the world and make
the US and every country a more hospitable place for women.
We hope too that the violence against women will end. Nice speech of Steiner!
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